14If we love our Christian brothers and sisters,d it proves that we have passed from death to life. But a person who has no love is still dead. 15Anyone who hates another brother or sistere is really a murderer at heart. And you know that murderers don’t have eternal life within them. 1 John 3:14-15 (NLT)
So .. love within a person (especially towards fellow Christians) is the measure of whether a person has moved from the automatic death that comes from original sin, into life …eternal life.
If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? 1 John 4:20 (NLT)
“Do not nurse hatred in your heart for any of your relatives. Confront people directly so you will not be held guilty for their sin. Leviticus 19:17 (NLT)
Rather than to hate someone, and dwell in a place of being upset or intensely angry with a person, confront him or her directly (obviously in love, and with a desire for truth and peace). This comes up a couple of times in the Bible. Another is:
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. (NIV)
“If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. (NLT)
Jesus says that rather than be angry (and thus be under judgement .. specifically “you may be in danger of the fires of hell”) go and reconcile yourself (quickly) with the person ..even if it is them who have a problem with you. Matthew 5:22-25 (Sermon on the Mount post)
8If you really keep the royal law found in Scripture, “Love your neighbor as yourself,”a you are doing right. 9But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as lawbreakers. 10For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking all of it. James 2:8-10 (NIV)
Let us not walk on the edge.. let us keep all our ways in alignment with Christ. Thank God for grace! However, where your heart is, is most important. And if there is a desire not to sin, then you can walk in alignment all the more. God sees the heart. Check your heart. Are you really wanting to love God, and love His children. And also, love your enemies?
Finally, in Jesus’ words:
46If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. 47If you are kind only to your friends,t how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that. 48But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect. (Matthew 5:46-48)